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Summer Projects with ADHD: From Scattered Ideas to Finished Dreams

Summer is finally here, and with it comes the promise of longer days and endless possibilities. Your mind fills with project ideas: refinishing that dining table, building raised garden beds, organizing the garage, painting the guest room. But if you have ADHD, that initial burst of enthusiasm can often scatter into a dozen half-started projects and regret lingering in the air like the scent of abandoned paint cans.

The good news? Summer projects and ADHD brains can work together. It just takes a different approach than the traditional “make a list and power through” mentality.

Why Summer Projects Hit Different with ADHD

ADHD brains thrive on novelty and interest, which makes the start of summer project season feel electric. Everything seems possible when you’re riding that wave of a new idea. But we also struggle with executive function, time blindness, and maintaining motivation through the boring middle parts of projects.

Summer makes these challenges worse. Without the structure of school or work schedules, time feels elastic and unmanageable. Heat affects our already-challenged emotional regulation. And the social pressure to “make the most” of summer can trigger shame spirals when projects stall.

The ADHD-Friendly Project Approach

Forget the advice to “just stick with one project.” Instead, work with your brain’s natural patterns:

Start with the dopamine hit. Choose projects that actually excite you, not ones you think you “should” do. Your brain needs that initial interest to fuel the harder parts.

Batch similar tasks across projects. If you’re painting one room, prep the painting supplies for three rooms. Planning multiple garden beds? Do all the measuring and supply shopping in one trip. This takes advantage of hyperfocus and reduces the mental load of constantly switching between different types of thinking.

Build in variety and flexibility. Have 2-3 projects running simultaneously so you can switch when one loses momentum. Some days you’ll want to get your hands dirty building; other days you’ll want the satisfaction of detailed planning or shopping for supplies.

Create visible progress markers. ADHD brains need to see progress to maintain motivation. Take before photos, create a simple checklist you can physically check off, or document your work on social media. The external validation and visual proof of progress fuel continued effort.

Practical Strategies That Actually Work

The “good enough” mindset is your friend. Perfectionism is the enemy of completion. Decide upfront what “done” looks like for each project, and resist the urge to keep tweaking. That dining table doesn’t need a museum-quality finish; it needs to be functional and make you happy when you see it.

Time block with buffers. If you think a task will take two hours, block four. ADHD time estimation is notoriously optimistic, and having buffer time prevents the shame spiral when things take longer than expected.

Use body doubling. Invite friends over for project work sessions, join online co-working sessions, or even just FaceTime someone while you work. The accountability and social element can provide the external structure your brain craves.

Prep for the enthusiasm crash. It will happen. Plan for it by breaking large projects into smaller, manageable chunks, preparing all materials in advance, and creating systems that make it easy to restart when motivation returns.

Managing the Messy Middle

The hardest part of any project isn’t the exciting beginning or satisfying end—it’s the tedious middle where motivation wanes and the novelty wears off. For ADHD brains, this is where projects typically die.

Combat this by pairing boring tasks with stimulation: listen to podcasts during repetitive work, reward yourself with small treats after completing chunks, or work in timed sprints with breaks. Sometimes the difference between a finished project and an abandoned one is simply making the boring parts less boring.

Remember that taking breaks doesn’t mean giving up. Sometimes you need to step away from a project for days or weeks while your brain recharges. Trust that the motivation will return, and resist the urge to fill that time with guilt.

Celebrating ADHD Project Wins

When you do finish a summer project, celebrate it fully. ADHD brains are wired to move quickly to the next thing, but taking time to appreciate your accomplishment reinforces the positive experience and makes you more likely to tackle future projects.

Take after photos, invite people over to see your work, or simply spend time enjoying the finished result. You’ve not only completed a project—you’ve worked with your brain instead of against it, and that’s worth celebrating.

The goal isn’t to become a different person who naturally sticks with boring tasks. The goal is to design a project approach that works with your ADHD brain, not despite it. Your scattered attention isn’t a bug—it’s a feature that allows you to see possibilities others miss and find creative solutions to problems.

So go ahead, start that summer project list. Just remember: if you happen to measure once and cut twice, trust that your ADHD brain will find a way to make it work.

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Soy Embarrassing

A new psychologist started with our district a few years ago, and you could say she was an introvert. It took her months to actually talk to me in normal conversation. Honestly, I thought that was pretty good progress, because there are still people she doesn’t talk to at all. But I was determined to be her friend, so I kept at it.

One day, I had brought some edamame from a restaurant. The portion was huge—way too much—and this person happened to be sitting near me in the kitchen. I decided to share.

“Hey, want some edamame?” I asked.

She politely declined.

“No, seriously,” I said. “I have too much. I’m not going to eat it all.”

She said no again, but I absolutely insisted. Eventually, she gave in and took a piece. My confidence soared. I was winner her over! And that’s when it happened.

To my absolute horror, the piece she took was one I had already eaten. Chewed it, spit it out, tossed it back into the pile—THAT piece. And for some reason, she tried again. And yep, again, another chewed-up piece.

I apologized profusely. She stopped eating. I kind of blacked out the rest of the conversation from sheer embarrassment. But we’ve managed to maintain a pretty good working relationship and friendship despite this unfortunate episode.

This was about five years ago. Recently, I finally got up the nerve to talk to her about this little trauma that’s haunted me for half a decade. Surely, she remembered this life-altering incident, right?

Nope. She had no memory of it. Nothing. I can only assume she was so traumatized herself that she developed amnesia or something. Must be nice.

Now, every time she’s out at a restaurant and orders edamame, she takes a picture of it and sends it to me with the message, “Thinking of you…”

Photo by Valeria Boltneva on Pexels.com

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How to Disclose ADHD to Your Employer: A Guide to Having the Conversation

Deciding whether to disclose your ADHD to your employer is a deeply personal choice. While there’s no universal “right time” or “right way” to have this conversation, and understanding your rights and preparing thoroughly can help make the process smoother and more productive.

Know Your Rights

Before having the conversation, it’s important to understand that ADHD is protected under both the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) and Section 504 of the Rehabilitation Act of 1973. The ADA applies to private employers with 15 or more employees, while Section 504 covers organizations that receive federal funding, including government agencies, schools, and many healthcare facilities.

These laws provide complementary protections:

  • The ADA ensures you’re legally entitled to reasonable accommodations in the workplace
  • Section 504 prohibits disability discrimination in programs receiving federal funds
  • Both laws protect against discrimination in hiring, promotion, and workplace treatment
  • Your employer cannot retaliate against you for requesting accommodations under either law
  • Medical information about your ADHD must be kept confidential under both statutes

When to Consider Disclosure

The decision to disclose often comes at key moments:

  • When you need specific workplace accommodations to perform your job more effectively
  • If you’re struggling with certain aspects of your role that could be improved with adjustments
  • When you want to be proactive about your performance and work relationships
  • If you’re starting a new position and want to set clear expectations from the beginning

Preparing for the Conversation

Before discussing your ADHD with your employer:

  1. Document your strengths and contributions to the company. This helps frame the conversation positively and reminds both you and your employer of your value to the organization.
  2. Research potential accommodations that could help you perform better. These might include:
    • A quieter workspace or noise-canceling headphones
    • Written follow-ups to verbal instructions
    • Breaking large projects into smaller tasks
    • Using project management tools
    • Flexible working hours
  3. Consider how ADHD affects your specific role and prepare concrete examples of how accommodations could improve your performance.

Having the Conversation

Choose the right time and setting:

  • Schedule a private meeting with your immediate supervisor or HR representative
  • Pick a time when neither of you will be rushed
  • Prepare your thoughts in advance
  • Bring relevant documentation if you have it

Here’s a potential script to start the conversation:

“I wanted to talk to you about something that affects my work. I have ADHD, and while I’ve developed many strategies to manage it effectively, there are some small workplace adjustments that could help me be even more productive in my role.”

Focus on Solutions

Frame the conversation around solutions rather than problems. Instead of saying “I struggle with interruptions,” try “I do my best focused work when I can block out dedicated time for complex tasks.”

Requesting Accommodations

When requesting accommodations, remember that both the ADA and Section 504 require employers to engage in an “interactive process” to find reasonable solutions. This means:

  • You have the right to suggest specific accommodations
  • Your employer should work with you to find effective solutions
  • The process should be collaborative and ongoing
  • You can request modifications if initial accommodations aren’t effective

After Disclosure

Once you’ve disclosed:

  • Document any agreed-upon accommodations in writing
  • Set up regular check-ins to assess how the accommodations are working
  • Be prepared to adjust and refine solutions as needed
  • Keep records of all accommodation requests and responses
  • Know your rights if you face any discrimination or retaliation

The Bigger Picture

Remember that disclosure isn’t just about getting accommodations—it’s about creating an environment where you can thrive and contribute your best work. Many ADHD traits, like creativity, hyperfocus, and thinking outside the box, can be significant assets in the workplace when properly supported.

Final Thoughts

The decision to disclose your ADHD is yours alone. If you choose to have this conversation, approach it with confidence, knowing that you’re advocating for yourself and your ability to contribute your best work to your organization.

Remember that many successful professionals have ADHD and have navigated this conversation before you. Your openness might even help create a more inclusive workplace for others who come after you.

Both the ADA and Section 504 provide strong legal foundations for your rights in the workplace. Understanding these protections can give you the confidence to advocate for what you need to succeed.

Recommended Resources

Job Accommodation Network (JAN): JAN a free resource that provides information for employers and employees. JAN offers consultation, training, and wealth of information on various disabilities and the accommodations that can help employees succeed in the workplace.

Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC): The EEOC is a federal agency responsible for enforcing laws that prohibit employment discrimination. They investigate complaints of employment discrimination, take legal action against employers who violate the law, and provide education and technical assistance to employers and employees.

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It’s not ADD.

In the field of mental health, the DSM (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) makes all things possible. It’s how clinicians identify and diagnose mental disorders. While invaluable, it’s not without its problems – too many to list here – and it’s been revised numerous times over the years.

In my very first graduate school course, I learned something that would change my life: ADD wasn’t a thing anymore. The DSM had done away with the term “Attention Deficit Disorder” in the early 1990s. Instead, “ADHD” became the umbrella term, encompassing all subtypes like ADHD-Inattentive and ADHD-Hyperactive/Impulsive. So I filed this away as: ADD=wrong, ADHD=right.

This was 2005. Almost 20 years later, people still call it ADD.

And it drives. Me. Insane.

When the average person says it, I can (usually) let it slide. But when I hear physicians, psychiatrists, or other professionals say ADD, my brain internally combusts. Does this nuance matter in the grand scheme of things? Of course not. But it’s wrong. And my very ADHD brain just can’t let it go.

My close friends and colleagues have endured my rants about this for years. Then a few years ago, I heard the DSM was getting a text revision. And with that revision came rumors: ADHD might be on the chopping block.

They were actually considering making it ADD again.

My world turned upside down. I had spent years raising awareness about the critical distinction between ADD and ADHD, only to face the possibility that this distinction might disappear altogether. Had my advocacy for this important issue been in vain?

Thankfully, no major changes were made to ADHD in the DSM. And people still continue to call it ADD to this day.

And yes, it still grinds my gears.